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By AMY NEWSHORE

It’s that time again for thinking about the new year ahead and what aspirations we may have for ourselves. The beginning of a new year can awaken motivation to engage in habits, activities and goals that are good for us. For example, we might want to stop drinking or smoking, exercise more, be more patient with our spouse and children, eat healthier, treat ourselves with more kindness, or carve out more opportunities for fun and pleasure.

By AMY NEWSHORE

Shame is a topic not easily talked about. And that is why I feel enthusiastic about writing about it. That’s my thing — discussing and writing about topics that we often hold at arm’s length and don’t dare think or talk about.But why am I choosing to...

By AMY NEWSHORE

What exactly IS emotional vulnerability? What comes to your mind as you read this phrase?I imagine many of us cringe a bit, and are not comfortable at the thought of being vulnerable. To clarify, I define emotional vulnerability as revealing one’s...

By AMY NEWSHORE

In my last column, I highlighted how emotional intelligence is a strong determinant of the success and flourishing of partnerships and marriages, as well as friendships, work and family relationships. Briefly, I defined emotional intelligence as...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Part 1 of a 2-part seriesWhen you think of someone you consider to be intelligent, what comes to mind? Perhaps they are well-schooled, are good problem solvers, or are self-taught, knowledgeable and passionate about a subject. It is most common to...

By AMY NEWSHORE

If you have ever found yourself responding to someone in a conversation by being defensive, join the club. Whether in romantic, platonic, family or professional relationships, when someone lets us know we have done or said something we might not like...

By AMY NEWSHORE

We all get “triggered” at times in significant relationships with loved ones. This happens when we react so strongly to what the other person is saying or doing that our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are out of proportion to the current situation....

By AMY NEWSHORE

When our partner or another individual in our life says or does something that leaves us confused or troubled, there is a human tendency for us to create a story about it. Basically, we jump to conclusions. We don’t have all the facts, so we fill in...

By AMY NEWSHORE

All of us have probably decided to end a relationship at some point in our lives, as well as having been in a relationship where we were broken up with.A breakup, separation, or divorce is a pivotal and tender time in one’s life. I’d like to shed some...

By AMY NEWSHORE

As time goes by in a relationship, and partners get to know each other more, there will be inevitable hurts, disappointments and upsets. This is what happens when we share our life with another human being. We each come from our own backgrounds,...

By AMY NEWSHORE

I have always found the topic of relationships fascinating and intriguing. In my monthly column, I write about romantic love, along with other significant relationships, and the perplexing challenges that we all inevitably face.Although it may be easy...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Many of us are facing Valentine’s Day with a lack of enthusiasm, to say the least. You may be newly single and are feeling raw and shaky. You may have been on your own for a long time and here you are, solo, once again on this holiday. Or you may find...

By AMY NEWSHORE

It is inevitable that we are going to make mistakes and sometimes hurt others, even those we love. When a relationship has been impacted by harmful words or actions, offering a sincere, heartfelt apology can go a long way toward mending the rupture....

By AMY NEWSHORE

Committed relationships usually start with the exciting promise of a well-lived life together. Each partner is filled with anticipation, dreams and plans, and overall positive expectancy.Over time, one or both partners may feel disillusioned and...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Some of us are affectionate by nature and others not so much. Yet every one of us needs some degree of touch in our lives. Touch is a natural part of many areas in our lives — in friendships, love relationships, our families, and activities such as...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Loneliness is an emotionally painful experience. Many of us associate loneliness with being alone; however, one can experience loneliness at work, in a college classroom, at a party or at home with family. Studies even show that 33% to 40% of married...

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When infidelity has been revealed, the worst nightmare in a marriage or relationship has become a reality. The life that was known before has now drastically changed into one of uncertainty and immense pain.The term “infidelity” is used here to mean a...

By AMY NEWSHORE

This column is part three of a three-part series on narcissism. Click here and here to read the previous columns.Are you wondering if you might be a narcissist?To ask such a question, one must be able to self-reflect, with a sense of curiosity and a...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Abuse in relationships may not always be easily identifiable when there is narcissism involved. Yet “narcissistic abuse” is just as damaging and unacceptable as any other form of abuse. No matter where narcissistic people fall on the narcissism...

By AMY NEWSHORE

As with other mental health challenges that have received a lot of attention in the media (such as autism, bipolar disorder and ADHD), narcissism has become a familiar household word in recent years. Studies indicate that the psychiatric condition...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Setting boundaries is a life skill that involves setting limits and rules for how people treat us, who we want in our lives and how close we wish to be with others.To really open our hearts to others, we need to be able to trust that we will be...